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Karan studies in 6th grade. He has recently joined a new school. He looks big in comparison to the other pupils of his class. He is known to pick up fights with his classmates and no one dares to stand up against him in fear..

By Feb 4,2013  0

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Karan studies in 6th grade. He has recently joined a new school. He looks big in comparison to the other pupils of his class. He is known to pick up fights with his classmates and no one dares to stand up against him in fear. Karan is disobedient and pays no attention in class. He is perceived as restless and is deemed a trouble maker. It seems like he does not regret any of his actions and rather enjoys watching other students in pain. Everybody believes Karan is the ‘bad’ boy. But very few know that he looks big because he is already 15 years old. He has failed 6th grade twice. That is the reason he had to leave his old school and his friends behind.

Now let us look at Karan’s home. Karan’s dad is an alcoholic. His dad has a very short temper and has several times beaten Karan to pulp, under the influence of alcohol, for his silliest of mistakes. Karan was in deep pain and had to miss school the other day. But his situation is unknown to his teachers. Unsurprisingly, they think of it as ‘good riddance!’

Karan’s mother has to work full time and has little time or energy left to pay attention to him. Karan has no help at home so his assignments are not complete. Instead of talking to Karan about his situation, his teachers punish him and dismiss him as a miserable boy with no good future what so ever. This opinion of him has thus, in reality sealed his future.

With no one to help him, to acknowledge his pain or to support him, he will most definitely indulge in delinquent behaviour, signs of which are already obvious in his bullishness towards his classmates.

This is not just Karan’s story. Many young children are facing similar situation all over the world and in process developing into dysfunctional individuals. This affects the entire society. So what can be done to save a life from being totally wasted away? How can we help children like Karan change their behaviour to a more socially productive one? Such are the questions that a Psychologist tries to answer.

Psyche- meaning ‘soul’, ‘spirit’ or ‘breath’ and Logos meaning the ‘study of’. The word Psychology translates to the study the human spirit; understanding what lies inside our minds and how it influences our behaviour.

Some of the everyday questions that psychologists deal with are associated with various dimensions of human emotions- Why some people are more likely to become better lovers than others? Why some children are so stubborn? What is more detrimental in predicting a child’s behaviour- environment or genes? Why some people more susceptible to substance abuse? How to deal with an traumatic experience such as loss of a loved one or end of a romantic relationship.

Today psychology has developed into a specialized scientific field addressing questions that make everyday life more productive. The information from psychological research is applied to individuals in their mental health treatment, self help, and in other areas affecting health and daily life. Many psychologists are actively working in the field of Counselling as therapists, helping people overcome mental, behavioural and emotional issues.

With a little bit love, nurturing, support and push in the right direction, we all are capable of realizing our true potential and achieving greatness.

So, Chal yaar Dhaka maar 🙂

Soumya Mania Ranjan
Soumya is a qualified psychotherapist who feels that holistic counselling is the call of the hour. Based in Germany, she’s a proud Odia who wishes to give back to the society through her profession.

 

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